Candace Bushnell quotes and sayings
December 1, 1958
The reality about being economically dependent on someone else usually doesn't work out for women in the end. It's about being an adult and being responsible for your life. Most women have to work, so let's just get on with it.
I'm not ashamed of anything I've done. Shame is a useless emotion.
I'm certainly not going to put my life on hold for him.
Rule number one: Why is it that the one time a cute guy talks to you, you have a friend who's in crisis?
I've been writing fiction probably since I was about 6 years old, so it's something that is second nature to me now. I just sit down and start writing. I don't sit down and start writing and it comes out perfectly - it's a process.
The heart wants what the heart wants," she says, somewhat cryptically. I purse my lips in disapproval. "You'd think the heart would know better.
I was incredibly determined - I wrote short stories, I wrote the beginnings of novels. I wrote a little children's book and sent it to the editor-in-chief of the children's division of Simon and Schuster and she asked me to write a little children's book for a series she was doing.
The fact that a man is open to being with an older woman suggests that he doesn't give a hang what other people think of him. More likely, he's confident, open-minded and willing to make his own rules.
Love is dangerous, if you know it's dangerous, that makes you treasure it, and you'll work harder to keep it.
When you're alone, it's easier," she said a little wistfully. "You can do what you want. You don't have to go home.
You choose the end of the summer to fall in love with this guy because secretly, you don't want it to last.
What I have yet to see is a real woman choose a younger man because he spent six hours a day at the gym trying to sculpt his abs.
Oh I don't plan on getting married. It's a legalized form of prostitution.
I think that one of the things that has changed the perception is that there are so many more single people. In New York City, it's 47 percent. When you have that many people who are single, they have a bigger voice and they're more willing to speak and say, 'We're not miserable, we're not sitting at home waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right, we're having a good time.' And I think single people have better friendships.
There's so many things that mattered so much in my 20s and 30s that don't matter now.
The world is full of people who all want the same thing, and you have to do a little something extra to make them remember you.
You know what they say: A woman needs a man about as much as a fish needs a bicycle.
I started working for the 'NY Observer' when I was 33. After I had been writing for them for about a year and a half the editor said, 'Your stories are the most talked about stories in the 'Observer'; you should have your own column.'.
At first, being with Sebastian was like being in the middle of the best dream I'd ever had - but now it mostly feels exhausting. I'm up one minute and down the next; questioning what I say and do. Even questioning my sanity.
I've always been fascinated by young women who come to New York. The characters in 'Lipstick Jungle' were once young women who came to New York and we see their early experiences through flashbacks.
The joke that I make is that there are instances on the TV series that happen to me, - except on Sex and the City they always make it better or worse than real life and I am actually saying that in a joking way.
New York is a city where people are ambitious. They want things.
There's a brief moment when you first wake up, where you have no memories. A blissful blank slate, a happy emptiness.
I actually don't shop very much. I have a tendency to rotate a few pairs of ripped jeans and an old cashmere sweater.
I make mistakes. That's what I do. I speak without thinking, I act without knowing. I drink so much that I can barely walk... I'm a fantastic lover though, and an amazing friend. God knows I mean well.
The key to life is your attitude. Whether you're single or married or have kids or don't have kids, it's how you look at your life, what you make of it. It's about making the best of your life wherever you are in life.
You can get used to anything, I guess, if you've been there enough.
The only way to look at men is like they're electrons. They have all these charges sticking out, and they're always looking for a hole where they can put those charges.
We need to encourage young women to find what they love to do. That is a very valuable pursuit - more so than the pursuit of a boyfriend. When you have that core, you bring that core to every aspect of your life.
You don't have to do everything by the time you're 30. Or 40. All you need is a work ethic. It's what allows you to push through moments of disappointment and self-doubt and fear.
It's a job. When I'm writing I'm going to do it five to six days a week and I'm going to work for four to six hours a day. There's no magic writing fairy. It's just hard work.
If you believe in love, you're setting yourself up to be disappointed.
Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.
You don't want to peak in high school. If you do, the rest of your life is a disaster.
sometimes the best thing to do is to pretend it didn't happen.
My decorating and renovation skills are nil - indeed, I once used a shower curtain from Pottery Barn as 'window dressing.'.
I think when I was 12, I started reading Evelyn Waugh, and I loved Evelyn Waugh so much, and I thought: 'This is how the world really is. If I could be Evelyn Waugh, then I would be happy.'.
And the sooner you do the right thing, the better. You get it over with, and you don't have to worry about it anymore. But who does that in real life?
Why do magazines do this to women? It's all about creating insecurity. Trying to make women feel like they're not good enough. And when women don't feel like they're good enough, guess what? Men win. That's how they keep us down.
Love is spiritual. It's about self-sacrifice and commitment. And discipline. You cannot have true love without discipline and respect. When you lose the respect of your spouse, you've lost everything.
Life gives you lots of chances to screw up which means you have just as many chances to get it right.
Man may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it.
I don't like to think of myself as a 'virgin'. I prefer to think of myself as 'sexually incomplete'. You know. Like I haven't finished the course yet.
Always look like you know where you're going, even when you don't.
I can safely conclude that we are single because we want to be.
- I don't want to be a writer so I can write about my life. I want to be a writer to escape from it. + Then you shouldn't be a writer.
You need characters who want things. They want love, they want recognition, they want happiness.
maybe he's falling in love with the idea of falling in love with me. Maybe he wants to be in love with someone and I've ended up in the right place at the right time.
Like it or not, in the end, it's one's body. It's literally what carries you through life. There's a reason for the saying, 'If you have your health, you have everything,' and it's true. Old age, disease - these are the great equalizers.
What if I'm a princess on another planet? And no one on this planet knows it?
I started writing about New York as soon as I arrived. I was 19. I used to write short stories and send them out.
I know I'm not a wordsmith. And I don't write poetry. Sometimes I think I should, because it's really helpful. But I always wanted to write novels.
When it comes to people -- don't write about who you know; but what you know of human nature.
Retribution is tricky... The insult isn't usually worth the risk of punishment. And eventually one learns that karma has a surprising way of taking care of these situations. All you have to do is sit back and watch.
Better alone than badly accompanied.
A writer must be fearless. A writer has to be like a clawed animal." -The Carrie Diaries pg. 337.
The most important thing in business is a persona, Nico,' he was fond of saying. 'People want to know immediately what they're dealing with. And when they think about you, you've got to stand out in their minds--like one of those characters in a novel.
I sometimes read in a gossip column that I was at a party when I was in Europe at the time. It sometimes feels I've got a Doppelganger somewhere.
If you smile, even if you're feeling bad, the action of the muscles will trick your brain into thinking you're happy.
I think a young woman's relationship with her father is really important.
I'm really enjoying being single. I'm not even looking to meet anybody, which is so freeing.
I didn't want it to be this way." "Yes, you did," she said, "because it is." "I just want to be with someone normal," he said. "I just want to have a normal life." "Excuse me," she said. "You're a little crazy," he said. "You're too old to act the way you do. You've got to grow up. You've got to take care of yourdelf. I'm afraid for you. You can't think that people are going to take care of you all the time.
'Lipstick Jungle' was on the air for 20 episodes - I loved 'Lipstick Jungle.'.
As long as you're neurotic and crazy, he's great. But once he solves all your problems, he becomes the problem.
Thank goodness for the first snow, it was a reminder--no matter how old you became and how much you'd seen, things could still be new if you were willing to believe they still mattered.
All those men who end up disappointing you. After a while, you don't even want to have feelings anymore. You just want to get on with your life.
Well I actually do have a country house in Connecticut with a population of 3,000. Like, how small is that? I spend a lot of time there - I write up there. So I kind of have the best of both worlds and I love going up there.
Growing up, nobody I knew even knew a writer. So it was a big adventure and something that I've wrestled with my whole life. I think it's a journey worth taking, really finding out who you are and what you do well.
Sometimes I think all the trouble in the world is caused by men. If there were no men, women would always be happy. ~Carrie.
Patent leather wedges-they were big when I went to prom!
A glittering disco ball spins from the ceiling, but the music is something I've never heard, discordant and haunting and insistent, the kind of music that demands you dance.
Some secrets are better left at that -as secrets.
I love Chicago. I lived there briefly for three months and kept a boat under one of those space-age buildings. It was very Jetsons.
In life,there are only four kinds of girls: The girl who played with fire. The girl who opened Pandora's Box. The girl who gave Adam the apple. And the girl whose best friend stole her boyfriend.
It was ironic, but when you scratched the surface, most successful men were working for one thing only--to retire--and the sooner the better. Whereas women were the complete opposite. She had never heard a woman say she was working so she could retire to a desert island or to live on a boat. It was probably, she thought, because most women didn't think they deserved to do nothing.
I can only hope he's an Aries and not a Scorpio.
Why do I keep evading my work? Is it because I'm afraid of being confronted by my lack of abilities?
Man might have identified fire, but women identified the way to enjoy with it.
He leans over and kisses me. And suddenly, my life splits in two: before and after.
As I'm writing, certain things become clear to me and certain things begin to feel right and make sense. The pieces start to fall into place.
I always thought that there was a really good chance that I wasn't going to get married.
Should, is the worst word in the English language. People always think things "should" be a certain way, and when they're not, they're disappointed.
I can't wait to get out of the house. I can't wait to get out of here. I've been telling myself this all week. The 'getting out of here' part is unspecified, though. Maybe I simply want to get away from life.
I wish I was one of those persnickety types who buys guidebooks and studies them, but I don't have the inclination or time. I'm more of a 'get on the plane, arrive at the destination and see what happens' kind of traveler.
I don't go to parties to meet men. I go to parties to stand in a corner and watch people.
I was a freelancer all through my twenties. I did about one story a month and I wanted to write fiction, so the stories that I would do were precursors to 'Sex and the City.'.
he was juggling issues and solving problems, which was why his brain had no space left for memories.
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